Patience is definitely not something easily had. Some people have hardly any patience at all.
Please be patient, I am grieving is what I want to say so many times. Grief has absolutely no time limit. Not a week. Not a month. Not a year. Not 5 years. No time limit.
So, I am actually writing this to maybe help others deal with us. It isn't as easy as it seems.
The main thing is to show up and be willing to enter our world. It is definitely a different world.
Remember loss is painful. Its like we got hit by a bus and we get hit again and again. It can crush hearts. It can steal dreams. It can even destroy relationships.
Grief is lonely. Very lonely.
We experience helpful people and, some that aren't.
Sometimes people ask how do you feel. Well, we can feel totally misunderstood. We feel embarrassed, judged, neglected, ignored, invisible and rejected. And don't forget, we are grieving.
What we do not need are heroes, perfection. Just enter our world and be in it with us. Experience that bus hitting us. Just lay in the road with us and be there for us.
Also, respect our pain. Grief hurts. We can experience so many highs and lows. It is almost like an emotional roller coaster. It can be exhausting and frustrating. It can be overwhelming.
We just want someone to acknowledge we are hurting and respect our pain.
Grief can make us emotional. Trust me on this. I can be more emotional in a day than some in a lifetime. I just never know. I can be overwhelmed, depressed and numb.
But, we have every right to be emotional.
Grief has no time limit. Grief isn't fun either.
Don't try and make it better just accept us as we are and help us accept ourselves. One thing I have learned is at times I don't accept myself. I think, "man I am going crazy."
There are quite a few more things to explore with this one, I will definitely revisit tomorrow.
Grief sucks. There is not anything else to say about it but it sucks.
Joshua 1:9 "Be strong and courageous; do not be frightened or dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."
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