Unfortunately, losing a loved one is one of the most distressing and common experiences we can face.
Normal grief and bereavement have a period of sadness. You can feel numb, guilty and angry. They say these feelings will slowly ease and you can accept the loss and move on. Well, not happening from where I am. (maybe just a little is happening).
You see, some of us don't improve as time goes on. We have what they say is COMPLICATED GRIEF. Theses feelings are so long lasting and severe, they are painful and we have trouble resuming our normal life. Let me tell you, there is nothing normal about life after child loss. NOTHING.
Apparently normal grieving people go through stages or steps but, I am not normal and will not even touch those.
You see what we experience are things like intense sorrow and pain - feeling like our lives are over, focusing on nothing but the loss, problems accepting the loss, bitterness, lack of trust in others (you know everyone will leave or die and you'll be alone again), intense longing for our loved ones and, life is meaningless.
Of course we will then be unable to carry out normal stuff like daily things, become antisocial, feel its your fault or you could have prevented it (I think all grieving folks go through this but not long standing) and, wishing you had died too.
Now if you get to where you cannot function at all, see a doctor. They say within a year but, you will grieve a lifetime and I really do not know the right answer here. All I know is there is absolutely no medication or quick fix to make you get over losing a child. Theres no magic cure or pill. Its the hardest and most devastating thing to ever happen and I pray every night no one I know ever experiences the death of their child. It doesn't matter if you have 1 or 10, it SUCKS.
Romans 12:15 "Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn."
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