I have spent the past 30 minutes typing and deleting. So, I will just go with it.
The best thing I have found you can offer someone experiencing the loss of their child is prayer. Pray, pray and pray some more.
I also believe that showing and being there is important. So many people say there will do things and don't.
I was given the idea to write in a journal by a friend of mine and she even gave me two journals. One to write to God. One to write to Lezlie. And I did. I just stopped. Then I started back and came up with the idea to write a blog on how I feel or what I have experienced just because people need to know its normal, they aren't alone and, we can get through this. Hard as it seems.
Writing may be a way for all of us going through the grieving after death. It helps to just put your feelings somewhat, to get them out. Holding things in is not a good thing at all. Use the journal to write stories, memories or just words you feel need to be said to your child/loved one.
Healing takes time but it is possible to start. Healing starts when you learn to live and when you try and find a sense of peace related to the death of your child/loved one. Peace that may seem like it could never come.
People say things happen for a reason but I assure you that has no place with death. God doesn't take people to teach lessons or things like that. So, before you say it - think of how you would feel if it was said to you.
Healing may take a lifetime but, there is no timetable on it.
One day, you will wake up different, so used your new normal that it will be "normal".
Write. It will help you so much more than you could ever realize. Talk, because sometimes that will help you too. Something I still have a hard time doing but, I probably need to start taking my own advice. Live. Keep your faith and, PRAY.
Jeremiah 20:11 "But the lord is with me like a mighty warrior."
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