Grief is tough. Its hard at times to explain but when it hits you, it hits you.
You can love someone so deeply and entirely and when you lose them, you lose part of you. Your world is shattered.
Grief is the price we pay for love. They come from the same seeds. It may be beautiful sounding but, it can be really dangerous in those deep dark moments.
It can be scary. If you think about it hard and long enough you began to realize any love you feel that deep can cause pain. So, we try and protect ourselves.
So, we build a wall. We don't ever want to feel that pain again. We build a really big and tall and thick wall. After all who wants to grieve. NO ONE.
So you distance yourself from others. You refuse to open up to anyone new. You become detached.
You avoid love. That is your way of protecting yourself from grief. This basically keeps you from so many things.
So, what can I do. Take it slow. Address the fact that you are avoiding everyone and probably everything. Find ways to cope with anxiety and fear. Recognize that you can be hurt again but, you may not. Most importantly, think of what you are missing.
Yes, grief is hard but so is trying to stay on this journey alone.
1 Peter 4:8 "Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins."
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