I am by no means an expert on death.
I just know this, there are a few things you must do if you ever are faced with the loss of your child.
1. Cry, cry, cry and cry some more.
2. See your child, I know this sounds morbid but I feel that people that do not get to see their child after the fact will never get the closure they need. I do not care what the dr, police officer, tow truck drive, etc. tells you, see your child. Yea, I realize some don't want to remember their child like this but, it is harder to believe if you don't see them.
3. Bury your child. Unless they told you they wanna be scattered over orange beach, bury them.
4. Cry, cry and cry some more. Cry as much as you want. Be as mad as you want. Scream as loud as your want. You will want to and you will need to.
5. Don't blame yourself. Don't spend you life fighting this battle. It will get you nothing but more heartache.
6. Talk about him/her/. Remember the good and the bad. Just talk and share stories. People will listen.
7. Cut yourself off from the negative Nancy's or the sweet you need to move on lady. If they have all their kids, they have no business telling you HOW TO GRIEVE. The worst thing you can do is surround yourself with grieve know it alls that know nothing and naggers. You need support. Find those friends. You also do not need that friend that thinks all child deaths are the same, NOT TRUE!
8. Be happy. In the midst of all the heartache, be happy. Keep your faith and make sure you know God hurts with you, just like I do.
1 Peter 5:7 "Cast all your anxieties on him because he cares for you."
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