Not that strong....

I am sure you have read a million times that God gives certain people the hardest battles - you know, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger...

Let's take a minute and just stop saying to grieving parents, you are so strong.

All that does is make us feel more alone, isolate and misunderstood. It is such a cliche. It doesn't always mean to us what you mean it too.

We don't feel strong. Saying we are makes us not show how we really feel, you know sad, upset, angry, alone feeling - we are drowning!!!

I think people need to realize we will never feel strong. We may feel off balance, unable to relate.

Surviving this has nothing to do with strength. Bench pressing 100lbs has everything to do with strength. This is something we have no choice but to get through. Guess what, we still don't have a choice.

Yes, we are supposed to live through and survive the loss of our baby, regardless of how old they are. Regardless, its 4 years late and I am still trying to survive this. I am still trying to be that cliche, the strong person.

We survive.

But, we do need someone or a small circle that helps us do this.

Check on us. Check on the "strong ones". Listen to them/us will all your heart and always remember this, you might save a life.

Ephesians 3:16 "I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being,"