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Updated: Oct 25, 2019

When something takes your child from you suddenly, its met by many things.

First of all, you didn't have time to prepare for it. Not that that would help.

You have that feeling of shock, something the body will respond with. Its like a blow to your core. It's paralyzing. It is surreal. Unfortunately because we do not have time to really react, people do not know how to take us. Some of us may be a total hot mess or some of us may be calm.

Then comes guilt. I hate guilt. There is always the what ifs, the could've, would've, should've feelings. I should have picked her up from School. Why did I let him stay the night, etc. If these feelings seen crazy or irrational, talk about them. Keep a journal or, write a blog.

Acceptance is iffy. The reality is our child is never coming back. Our normal is forever changed. We get angry. Its one thing to accept things change but its hard to accept our child is gone even when that headstone is placed.

You will never completely recovery. You gradually put your life back together and then, it is still tough. We will never move on or get over it and you will lose your friend card if those words come out of your mouth as well as, it'll be okay.

One thing you need is support. Friendship. Help someone else just starting on this journey. Yes it is hard to do but I remember helping plan a memorial for a friends son and as hard as it was, and the fact I almost did not make it, I did it. I did it and I felt like I made a difference. I had some help but, I did it.

Suddenly, your life changes and your heart gets ripped out. You got this. Remember that.

Colossians 3:2 "Think about the things of heaven, not the things of earth."

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The righteous perish, and no one takes it to heart;  the devout are taken away, and no one understands that the righteous are taken away to be spared from evil.  Those who walk uprightly enter into peace, they find rest as they lie in death.

Isaiah 57:1-2

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