What is important?

People compare things they shouldn't and, there isn't much we can do about it.

I write about grief that is related to child loss. My grief involves my 15 year old angel.

It is different for everyone.

What we remember or do to cope may not be important to the person next door but, it is important to us.

It is important to always celebrate birthdays, death days, etc. Regardless of what anyone else feels is important, it is important to us/me.

It is important to keep the memory alive regardless if its been 10 minutes or 10 years. Never let anyone tell you different.

If you feel the need to tell someone to move on and get on with their life, you are not being supportive and, you have no idea what it is that keeps them alive, or, is important to them.

I know people that haven't moved on from deaths 15 years ago so do not tell a grieving parent to person what to do. That my friends is a good way to get defriended, try it and see. I will pull your card so fast you won't know what's going on.

Remember this, what is important to us is just that IMPORTANT. We do not care what you think about it. If we go to the cemetery every day, let us. If we celebrate birthdays with cake and ice cream, join us or move on.

What is important to a grieving parent is not meant to be understood. It is meant to keep us alive another day, month or year. We grieve how we want and we heal how we know best.

Psalms 46:10 "Be still, and know that I am God....."