I will be the first to admit, I am not a big fan of support groups, etc. Now granted, I have read and heard wonderful things about these and yes, they may be wonderful for some, they just aren't for me.
Yes, I recommend anyone that can do this to do it, if it is something you are okay with. But, I do not like talk based support. I think that the fact that I can write how I feel and anyone can read it, well that is a big deal. I have never been a public speaker. For me to publicly talk to someone about my grief or my loss, its a big deal.
But, I still am not going to go out and join a group regardless of who says they are great or even if I recommend them. I am more of a coping without talking person.
It has been a BIG DEAL for me to do what I promised I would do, post my feelings on this blog every day for a year. So far so good.
Basically, I just wanted to let people know that if these things aren't your cup of tea, it is okay.
You don't have to join a group, lay on a therapists couch, etc to cope. You can start a blog. Write your feelings in a journal. (that helps). Read, read, read. Draw. Do things that your loved one loved. If they had a favorite food, eat it. If they had a book they wanted to read, read it. There are many things to do.
But sitting in a group and telling people how I feel by talking, that is not my thing and so far, I have found that some people feel I am keeping too much in but, I promise I am getting way more out than they realize. But, they need to start at January 1 and read through.....
1 Corinthians 15:10 "But the grace of God, I am what I am."
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